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Wednesday, 29 August 2012

Quote: Bean

"The number one job of the dominant is to continually seduce consent from the bottom."
― Joseph Bean

This is an interesting quote, in my opinion. Usually people would argue that it is the bottom's job to give consent rather than the top's to pull it from them. This makes sense though - depending on the relationship and agreed limits between the two, a top will be able to push the bottom's boundaries. However, if they can't successfully coerce their partner into doing it, then that doesn't make them a bad top. It just means that the bottom isn't ready yet.

Another reason this quote interested me is because there has been a lot of debate about consent on Fetlife recently and the grey line that some people tread. Some like their consent to be ignored whereas others need to have given it to you explicitly and you cannot tell just by looking. Because of this, consent is a bit of an awkward topic right now but that tends to make it all the more interesting to discuss.

Personally, I require to have given verbal consent before I allow anyone to touch me, let alone push my boundaries. With my Daddy it is a little different as we have a contract where we have discussed consent in detail but other people need it from both me and him before I am comfortable with anything happening. For the most part we are monogamous in sex and in kink but lately we have toyed with the idea of playing with others together on a case-by-case basis. He played a little bit with a lovely owned slave at the fetish event we go to because I discussed it with him beforehand and we may both play with him at the next one. His Mistress is very happy for us to do so, since she took a shine to us when we met. Of course, any play will depend on everyone's feelings at the time and we won't cross any boundaries without explicit permission from them both.

A different dom at the event crossed my comfort zone when I had come out of the toilet by myself and that won't be happening again. It very much upset me because I was quite shocked and didn't really know what to do about it. I now will have to go to the toilet with someone I know to prevent it happening and that will unfortunately take away some of my fun in the future. He even asked Daddy if he could play with me and when Daddy said probably not, he replied "we'll see what happens" which made us both uncomfortable.

Both Daddy and I are big on consent issues because to us it denotes respect and we find that important in anything we do. I wish others were as thorough in gaining consent (or at least knowing boundaries beforehand) as we are. It would make everything a little easier.

Sunday, 26 August 2012

Sinful Songs: Time Warp

I have a lot of history with this song. When I was in primary school it was one of the songs we danced to at our leaving ceremony for our parents and I had no idea where it had come from or what it was about. I just thought it was one of those silly disco songs that everyone seems to like. Now I know better, and after finally getting around to watching The Rocky Horror Picture Show the other week, it struck me that this song has lyrics that remind me of D/s and subspace.

Because of that, I decided it would be great to do a blog post on. So here I present to you my new blog section: Sinful Songs.

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Friday, 24 August 2012

Sex Toy Society – Edition 13

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Sunday, 19 August 2012

Quote: Nietzsche #3

"You look up when you wish to be exalted. And I look down because I am exalted."
― Friedrich Nietzsche

I think Nietzsche might be the man I will quote the most when it comes to BDSM. Whether he means it or not, a lot of the things he said can apply to a BDSM relationship.

Take this one for example: there is an implication that the person he is talking to is looking up at him while he looks down upon them. This position is often used by Daddy and I at events and in his home. I spend a lot of time on my knees staring up at him and just by doing so I feel very fulfilled. I've heard that a lot of other Doms and subs do this too, so Nietzsche in my mind will always be a kinkster.

Friday, 17 August 2012

Review: Give Lube Silicone+

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Sex Toy Society – Edition 12

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Welcome to Edition 12 of the Sex Toy Society round-up of all the reviews written by Society authors over the past week.

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Review: Ann Summers Juicy Lube Range

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Saturday, 11 August 2012

Sex Toy Society – Edition 11

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Welcome to Edition 11 of the Sex Toy Society round-up of all the reviews written by Society authors over the past week.

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Essay: What Service Means to Me

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Wednesday, 8 August 2012

Quote: Nietzsche #2

"In every real man a child is hidden that wants to play."
"When one has not had a good father, one must create one."
― Friedrich Nietzsche

Two quotes today, since they complement each other well. These remind me of the Daddy/daughter dynamic I have with my own Daddy; there are plenty of children personas inside those who identify as littles and I am one of them. Both Daddy and I have felt let down by our birth fathers too and have sought to resolve that ourselves.

I did this by searching for a man who I felt could protect me and showed him my childish side and Daddy responded very well. In his way, he feels the need to protect and look after me, to make me happy and watch over me. In return I shower him with the unconditional love I feel he deserves and do my best to make him proud every day. We love to play together as well and every time I am good he rewards me with a session, a cuddle or a present.

It just feels so right to have this dynamic with my Daddy and I wouldn't change it for the world.

Sunday, 5 August 2012

Quote: Nietzsche

"The true man wants two things: danger and play. For that reason he wants woman, as the most dangerous plaything."
― Friedrich Nietzsche

Nietzsche has a lot of quotes that come off as misogynistic but I quite like them. This one in particular isn't as misogynistic as the others since he is indicating that women are powerful.

Quote: Carnegie

"A man who acquires the ability to take full possession of his own mind may take possession of anything else to which he is justly entitled."
― Andrew Carnegie

I found this in the "50 Shades of Grey" novel by E L James. Despite that, it's a good quote anyway. It reminds me of the way my Daddy owns me, the strong feeling of control and power that radiate from him when he issues an Order.

Quote: De Sade

"When she's abandoned her moral center and teachings...when she's cast aside her facade of propriety and lady-like demeanor...when I have so corrupted this fragile thing and brought out a writhing, mewling, bucking, wanton whore for my enjoyment and pleasure.....enticing from within this feral lioness...growling and scratching and biting...taking everything I dish out to her.....at that moment she is never more beautiful to me."
― Donatien-Alphonse-Fran├žois de Sade

I love this quote. It's a wonderful representation of how a sadist feels when he plays with someone. It makes me squirm in excitement and heat up in all the right places! ❤

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